Homophobic?

On one hand the Church of Christ has in some ways become sexist and homophobic. The Bible teaches us that we should stay away from people who are against the word of scripture, and give in to gay and leasbian activities. But doesnt the Bible at the same time tell us that we shouldn't judge other people because on the way tey look or act. As chrsitians we suppose to command and teach the word of God, but how can we when most followers think that it is a in to be involved with others against Gods teachings? As a Christian I have a friend who turned out to be gay when I was only about...15. I am not going to stop being firneds with him because of what he is, but doesnt mean that I condone what he does. As Christians we are suppose to love everyone with an open heart and a loving mind, because we are all Gods' children. This argument can go back and forth, and back and forth; in the end it is all aout what yo bleive and how you as a Christian should go about handling the situation.